What is the reason we crave and suffer for things? We don't we just let them slip by us instead like if there was nothing wrong. Why do we cry, and suffer when we lose things? Why does an animal or plant remain completely unmoved when you take something away? Why is it that when something is taken away from us there is so much pain? And the greater question is why we think as if suffering would bring those things back?
As we were all once younger we began to recognize ourselves with that our name. Then we began to equate our name with our desire such as social standing, our possessions, our relationships, and many other things. We began think about ourselves like so;" I want this car". Or "I want to be rich". So when we start to imagine ourselves as being rich, or having a nice car, you actually think that is you. Since you think that imagined you as a rich person are really you, you stride to get that object as if you had to fix yourself or create yourself.
We begin to have a separate sense of self with the word "I". When we create the word I we create ourselves as a separate fragment, forgotten by God. Then "me" wants these things.
Sooner or later those desires begin to take us over; we burn up so much energy to get to the future. We begin to think that desires are the most important thing in our life because we chase the phantom of ourselves, but really you equate your name with a false made you, a fabrication of the mind. You begin to think that your achievements your psychical looks is the real you. This is root of feeling "not good enough, not complete" because you start to imagine yourself in the future. You need to find out that you are not the one who desires, and then the desires will become irrelevant.
You aren't doing anything anyway when you desire something. You're not doing anything now, it just seems that way. When the 'enlightened' guru realizes that he is not the person who is wanting something and acting, he simply stops believing that he is, but the desires and actions happen anyway because they arise from the totality of Consciousness. A desire happens because everything in the universe has aligned in such a way that this is what happens. Same with the acting on the desire, or not; there's nobody doing it, just someone thinking about it.
So when you finally get there you ask well how come I don't' feel any different? How come people barely find out that happiness is not from materials when they realize that their 5th car does not give them happiness. You thought that the mind made self was more important than the NOW. The mind made self wants things, and feeds itself from objects, and social standings. When is the real you ever here? NOW! That's all you will ever be in is the now. When your desire comes it will be now. When you start imagining yourself in the future you move away from the now, then the ego says its time to complete myself, because it thinks that thought you created is you. Think of a person you want to be, or whoever you think you are, and then all of a sudden there is a split in you. Besides even you really did want to become someone you did absolutely nothing to plan to get there. This is when desire takes you over unconsciously to become that imagined vision of you.
When we want food, just a simple box of pizza for example there isn't suffering. I don't identify with the pizza, and I don't suffer. Since I'm not looking forward with attaching and identifying me to and the box of pizza there is no trouble. Now if there was some competition of who got the box of pizza the fastest? Automatically you start thinking about yourself, how wonderful you will be. You choose to believe how wonderful you are going to be. Now there will be some sort of craving to go get the box of pizza. Now I will want to go get that box of pizza ASAP. The strangest thing though we don't do this for a box of pizza we do this for many things in our lives.
Special thanks to Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, and OSHO for their wonderful teachings.
